We tend to assume that sex has to involve the genitals, and that any sense of erotic or sexual arousal will need to lead to genital engagement.
This is because we’ve associated sex with reproduction for so long, and obviously you need genital interaction for reproduction.
Yet sex is not just about reproduction. In fact it’s rarely about reproduction. Sex in humans is not primarily a reproductive function.
If we do think of sex as only genital, or at least, having to involve the genitals, then we get into the either/or thinking that plagues us. For example,
if you have a particular fetish for wearing certain clothes, you’ll feel a heightened erotic sense when wearing them. That enjoyment can be enough
in itself. It doesn’t have to lead to sex.
Conversely, we can feel a heightened erotic sensation from so many experiences, such as food, music, art, gardening, sport and physical activity.
In fact, any pleasurable activity that leads to the release of ‘happy hormones’ in our body is in some way sexual because it leads to that heightened
sense of arousal.
You see, it’s all linked: your mind, heart, body and spirit. Stimulate one part and it makes... read more